Getting all up in DESIRE
Let's talk about allowing yourself to want what you want
I’m reading a book called Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power by Kasia Urbaniak and enjoying it thoroughly. Since I started it, I’ve had several of those, “Yes!!! She’s saying the thing I didn’t have words for” moments.
In the School of Sacred Embodiment, when discussing desire, it’s most often under the sixth pillar of the (Wild) Soul Liberation framework.
I tend to place the most emphasis on learning to distinguish your soul’s desires from your ego’s desires.
Something I’m really digging about Unbound is full permission to go into the ego desires and mine for the gold there.
In true #youcantmakethisshitup fashion, I’d already been thinking about this prior to starting the chapter that gets into this today. Two days ago, on Thursday, I was having a conversation with one of my Sacred Embodiment Specialist trainees. She was feeling conflicted about two different sides of herself.
I invited her to practice listening to the part of her that wants things she knows aren’t fully aligned for her and not to dial down or deny that voice, but rather to give it all the air time it needs to feel seen and heard AND THEN, tap back into the soul to see what might fulfill both.
To elaborate, even the things that come from our ego have a little bit of soul in them.
It’s like the saying, “There’s a little truth in every lie.”
As I constantly remind the women in the School of Sacred Embodiment (and myself!), every part of us is sacred. God is in all the dirty details and the most divine desires.
None of it is separate.
Making it separate, labeling things wrong and bad, creating scales of moral superiority, and impossible standards of integrity only constricts us in the long run.
Becoming a person who can be with, acknowledge, and allow all of the desires to be felt and witnessed, then acted upon with emotional maturity and your values in mind, though?
THAT IS THE MYSTICAL JAM.
It’s sexy.
It’s hard.
It takes work.
And it’s extremely worthwhile.
So whether you want to call it your inner Bad Girl like Kasia Urbaniak does or give it another name…
Maybe it’s time to start giving voice to the selfish, greedy, insatiable, misbehaving, rebellious, inconsiderate, compassion-less part of you to find the soul nuggets that are hidden in her deepest desires, too.
The reason some women won’t is because they’re afraid to admit they have these parts. I can relate to that. It certainly doesn’t seem very “spiritual.”
But what’s more spiritual…
Lying to yourself or telling the truth?
Hiding shit or bringing it into the light?
And God forbid we appear needy or greedy, right?
Women are supposed to be givers and pleasers.
We’re told in so many ways in so many places that we’re wired for nurturing…
So why are we so afraid to nurture all of our parts?
We’re told hunger is unladylike and taught to fear the dreaded label of being “high maintenance.”
We’re not supposed to want things, but we’re supposed to have it all…that math doesn’t math, baby.
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Loving this frame of self-acceptance and recognizing how much of a “thing” this is for me now. I just realized ways I’m already doing this (ooo, also being super grateful for first going to how I’m doing this well, instead of my usual default of all the ways I’m not).
The house/home stuff for me, for example. Designing my dream home. Absolutely started as ego desire. And as I journey through it, focused on my values, honoring Spirit’s guidance, discerning what obstacles are there for my protection/redirection and which I’m meant to creatively solve, feeling every feeling that comes up, it’s shifting and becoming more and more my soul desire.
If I had never started the process because it was an ego desire and I had deemed those bad or if I was hellbent on getting what my ego wanted when my ego wanted it...I was going to say, I would have missed out on so much.
The nuance though is it I had gone down either of those paths, I would have needed to.
I’m proud that I’m choosing/embracing the fullest, most authentic, soul honoring way that I can even if it’s harder in many ways.
Yay for embracing the all and finding the wisdom and nuggets wherever they are! ♥️
Mmmmmm. This is another delicious angle of undoing the unnecessary binary of good/evil and leaning in to radical self-acceptance. Love it!